As a woman, your sexuality is as unique and individual as your fingerprint.
Conditioning, past experiences and your psyche’s response to these stimuli produce a specific blueprint that governs your ability to be sexually responsive in any given circumstance. Some of our conditioning often blocks our natural ability to enjoy pleasure and intimacy.
It all starts in the playpen, so to speak. Little boys are born with penis awareness, making healthy sexuality a little easier. Little girl’s “down there” – the vagina – is tucked deep inside, hidden.
Think about it: When did you first become aware of your vagina?
How many little girls out there, right now, are aware they have a vagina, and if so, what emotion is attached to the physical?
How many little girls find out the hard way, through traumatic sexual experiences, such as abuse?
Unfortunately, many women develop unhealthy sexual “armor” due to societal conditioning and sexual repression. More women than you would imagine find themselves frustrated. They may not feel comfortable enough to talk about it, or have a confidante they trust – and they stay stuck.
Regardless of a woman’s sexual education, experience, identity and orientation, there is a good chance that at some point, she has “armored” herself, blocking her natural sexual vitality.
She may very well be carrying painful emotional secrets in her physical female anatomy. Unhealthy sexual experiences can cause a woman to go numb, or shut down to protect her vulnerability. This paralyzes, or compartmentalizes pleasure receptors, literally closing the doors to ecstasy.
Sexual energy is mysteriously powerful. I advocate releasing the armor we all wear around our female anatomy, so that we can freely experience pleasure and create authentically intimate relationships.
The most powerful tool to heal and shed protective sexual armor is the heart, and all forms of its expression.
Connecting your heart energy to your female anatomy is not only healing, it is also nurturing and fun! Bringing heart-energy into your sexuality helps us open up to untapped depths of sensuality, and create a more wholesome way to share our sexuality.
It is important for women to explore, and become familiar with our sexuality, as well as our body, if we are going to truly feel comfortable sharing it with another person.
Enter the vibrator – both literally and figuratively.
Though the vibrator can be instrumental in waking up part of a woman’s sexuality, with continued use it can actually put it back to sleep, numbing it through over-stimulation.
Interestingly enough, vibrators can prevent a woman from tuning in to more subtle energies that heal and clear emotional blocks. To be clear, I am not talking about physically-sourced blocks or numbness, which is actually a non-issue.
It may sound somewhat counter-intuitive, but if you want to be completely free of emotional sexual armor that has become more prison than defense, consider bidding your vibrator adieu.
Ultimately there is nothing more powerful than heart-centered, conscious touch through hands and fingers transmitting healing heart energy.
Think of your female anatomy as sacred and honoring “her” needs, by giving her a voice and creating healthy boundaries. When making love with a committed partner, imagine that they also wield a healing wand of light.
And this is only the beginning!
Your female anatomy deserves to be armor-free. You deserve to feel the heights of pleasure, intimacy, connection and love. It begins with you, knowing your female anatomy is precious and powerful.
Learn more by connecting with Anna-Thea on Insta @divinefeminine.educator, or checking out www.annathea.org.
